Chapter 163. Not on the same level of thought
Third Brother Lin smiled and nodded. Lin Qing He had the heart to persuade him to not give birth too frequently but decided to forget about it.
Even if she was the elder sister, some things can't be said.
After all, she really couldn't put herself into Third Sister-in-law Lin's shoe and experience consecutively having three daughters. So it was better to say less and let the couple decide themselves.
As expected, Lin Qing He entertained her younger brother and her two nieces. She had them return with all smiles.
On the second day of the new year, Lin Qing He and Zhou Qing Bai took the boys into the city.
Same as the previous years, they took the boys out to eat, drink, and have fun.
Of course, they also dropped by Zhou Xiao Mei's place.
Zhou Xiao Mei was pregnant, and her complexion was obviously good. She looked like a zongzi (bulging like a certain food).
Seeing her, Lin Qing He was very emotional. Fortunately, she didn't have to birth children like her. As far as she knew, any woman, who had been pregnant and had a child, would lose their figure.
Even in this era, it will collapse more severely.
Lin Qing He's body was originally average. After she came over, she paid great attention to mediation and maintenance, so she didn't look out of shape at all.
"He the closest to his parents after all." Lin Qing He looked at little Su Cheng and remarked.
Although he was brought up by his grandma, it's still wasn't as good as his own parents. It has only been a few days, not one bit unfamiliar can be seen. He still recognized Lin Qing He and her boys, but appeared a little distant toward them.
But in the end, it was a kid. After playing for a while, they got along like never before.
There was nothing else to worry about. Su Da Lin obviously took care of Zhou Xiao Mei wonderfully, so there was no need for anyone to elaborate.
"On such snowy weather, you have to be careful." Lin Qing He reminded.
"I know." Zhou Xiao Mei nodded, looking a bit aggrieved.
She came in to talk to Lin Qing He in private. She stated, "Fourth Sister-in-law, whether I'm having a boy or a girl, I don't plan to give birth after this one."
"The two is enough." Lin Qing He didn't have any disagreements on this and said: "As for your mother's opinion, you can consider it. You don't need to listen to her every time. To live your life, it mainly focuses on the wishes of the two of you. "
"I know Da Lin wants to have another one too, so I am willing to give birth to this one. But afterward, I really don't plan to have another one." Zhou Xiao Mei said.
Su Da Lin was the only son of their Su family. He had always been lonely since then. One son was indeed lacking, so it was okay to have one more son.
In fact, there weren't many two-child families in this era. It seem too little. Which family didn't have four or five children?
But for Zhou Xiao Mei, two was a lot. What's more, giving birth was really time-consuming.
So Zhou Xiao Mei didn't plan to have more. If she raised them well, she didn't believe that her son would be worse than others in the future.
One can also match other family's handful!
"You can discuss this kind of thing with brother-in-law." Lin Qing He didn't dare to say anything more. Only a couple can discuss this kind of thing.
Otherwise, if she intervened now, won't Su Da Lin blame her?
It was wisest not to mix up in these matters.
After staying here for more than an hour, Zhou Qing Bai and Lin Qing He took the boys away.
Little Su Cheng was particularly reluctant to part with San Wa. When he was at his grandma's house, he liked playing with San Wa the most. He kept crying out 'gege' after he left. (T/N: baby just learned to talked, so can't pronounce properly. Basically trying to call 'brother')
After returning home, San Wa sighed again: "If only I had my own little brother or sister."
He liked being a big brother very much but didn't have the fate to be one. He was the youngest in the family. Although he had cousins, it was still that reason, they weren't birthed by his own parents. It always felt different.
Lin Qing He: "..."
Zhou Qing Bai finally stopped mentioning this topic, but this kid had to bring it up from time to time.
Sure enough, Lin Qing He raised her head and met Zhou Qing Bai's deep eyes.
Alright, she surrendered.
"Today was very tiring. Let's make dinner a bit simpler. Then wash up and prepare for bed." Lin Qing He said quickly.
This was really impossible to dodge.
They have been out for the whole and were indeed tired. So the family went to sleep after washing up.
Zhou Qing Bai did not continue to toss her around.
Every year on the second day of New Year, it was a tradition for her family to head to the city to play.
Although in the eyes of the villagers, this was too extravagant and wasteful. They couldn't believe Zhou Qing Bai. He had the spirit of being a master in other matters but he didn’t intervene in any of his wife's matter or how their lifestyle ended up because of her.
In a blink of an eye, Da Wa was nine years old. Country folks can start considering marriage at the age of fifteen. Many people got married at seventeen or eighteen. Now counting, how many years were there?
Time passed in a blink of an eye and if they don’t save any money for the children to use for the marriage now, there will be Er Wa and San Wa following behind after Da Wa married in the future.
Apparently, Qing Bai and his wife weren't very concerned.
In fact, some people in the village were already aiming for Da Wa.
Ignoring Lin Qing He, the unreliable mother, there was nothing to complain with just Zhou Qing Bai and his sons.
Especially Da Wa. He was very similar to his father, Zhou Qing Bai. Although he was only nine years old after the Chinese New Year, he was getting really tall really fast. He'll definitely be as big and tall as his father in the future.
How could the people who had daughters not keep in mind?
Everyone was clear which family within the ten miles and eight villages had a good daughter or a strong young man at this time.
From the looks of Da Wa, one knew he won't fare badly at all.
However, with Lin Qing He being the mother. This person didn't seem to be so easy to handle.
Lin Qing He was clueless about these things, but she had never worried about her sons' life-long events.
Even though the three boys were naughtier than the other, but in terms of appearance, they were the best among the children in the village. They all picked her and Zhou Qing Bai's best features.
What's more, how old were they now? To worry about things that happen ten years from now, wasn't this being too anxious?
This was the generation gap between her and the people at this time.
In Lin Qing He's opinion, it wasn't too late for a 30-year-old to marry. However, in this society's concept, a 30-year-old without a string of kids deserved strange looks.
For example, Third Brother Lin was now 28 years old. His wife was already pregnant with the fourth child.
And if she assumed correctly, he will definitely continue to have more in the future...
Thoughts were not on the same level. That's why Lin Qing He had never thought about integrating into the village after coming here for so many years. It was really impossible to get on the same topic. There was no need to forcibly integrate into their circle.
Third Brother Lin smiled and nodded. Lin Qing He had the heart to persuade him to not give birth too frequently but decided to forget about it.
Even if she was the elder sister, some things can't be said.
After all, she really couldn't put herself into Third Sister-in-law Lin's shoe and experience consecutively having three daughters. So it was better to say less and let the couple decide themselves.
As expected, Lin Qing He entertained her younger brother and her two nieces. She had them return with all smiles.
On the second day of the new year, Lin Qing He and Zhou Qing Bai took the boys into the city.
Same as the previous years, they took the boys out to eat, drink, and have fun.
Of course, they also dropped by Zhou Xiao Mei's place.
Zhou Xiao Mei was pregnant, and her complexion was obviously good. She looked like a zongzi (bulging like a certain food).
Seeing her, Lin Qing He was very emotional. Fortunately, she didn't have to birth children like her. As far as she knew, any woman, who had been pregnant and had a child, would lose their figure.
Even in this era, it will collapse more severely.
Lin Qing He's body was originally average. After she came over, she paid great attention to mediation and maintenance, so she didn't look out of shape at all.
"He the closest to his parents after all." Lin Qing He looked at little Su Cheng and remarked.
Although he was brought up by his grandma, it's still wasn't as good as his own parents. It has only been a few days, not one bit unfamiliar can be seen. He still recognized Lin Qing He and her boys, but appeared a little distant toward them.
But in the end, it was a kid. After playing for a while, they got along like never before.
There was nothing else to worry about. Su Da Lin obviously took care of Zhou Xiao Mei wonderfully, so there was no need for anyone to elaborate.
"On such snowy weather, you have to be careful." Lin Qing He reminded.
"I know." Zhou Xiao Mei nodded, looking a bit aggrieved.
She came in to talk to Lin Qing He in private. She stated, "Fourth Sister-in-law, whether I'm having a boy or a girl, I don't plan to give birth after this one."
"The two is enough." Lin Qing He didn't have any disagreements on this and said: "As for your mother's opinion, you can consider it. You don't need to listen to her every time. To live your life, it mainly focuses on the wishes of the two of you. "
"I know Da Lin wants to have another one too, so I am willing to give birth to this one. But afterward, I really don't plan to have another one." Zhou Xiao Mei said.
Su Da Lin was the only son of their Su family. He had always been lonely since then. One son was indeed lacking, so it was okay to have one more son.
In fact, there weren't many two-child families in this era. It seem too little. Which family didn't have four or five children?
But for Zhou Xiao Mei, two was a lot. What's more, giving birth was really time-consuming.
So Zhou Xiao Mei didn't plan to have more. If she raised them well, she didn't believe that her son would be worse than others in the future.
One can also match other family's handful!
"You can discuss this kind of thing with brother-in-law." Lin Qing He didn't dare to say anything more. Only a couple can discuss this kind of thing.
Otherwise, if she intervened now, won't Su Da Lin blame her?
It was wisest not to mix up in these matters.
After staying here for more than an hour, Zhou Qing Bai and Lin Qing He took the boys away.
Little Su Cheng was particularly reluctant to part with San Wa. When he was at his grandma's house, he liked playing with San Wa the most. He kept crying out 'gege' after he left. (T/N: baby just learned to talked, so can't pronounce properly. Basically trying to call 'brother')
After returning home, San Wa sighed again: "If only I had my own little brother or sister."
He liked being a big brother very much but didn't have the fate to be one. He was the youngest in the family. Although he had cousins, it was still that reason, they weren't birthed by his own parents. It always felt different.
Lin Qing He: "..."
Zhou Qing Bai finally stopped mentioning this topic, but this kid had to bring it up from time to time.
Sure enough, Lin Qing He raised her head and met Zhou Qing Bai's deep eyes.
Alright, she surrendered.
"Today was very tiring. Let's make dinner a bit simpler. Then wash up and prepare for bed." Lin Qing He said quickly.
This was really impossible to dodge.
They have been out for the whole and were indeed tired. So the family went to sleep after washing up.
Zhou Qing Bai did not continue to toss her around.
Every year on the second day of New Year, it was a tradition for her family to head to the city to play.
Although in the eyes of the villagers, this was too extravagant and wasteful. They couldn't believe Zhou Qing Bai. He had the spirit of being a master in other matters but he didn’t intervene in any of his wife's matter or how their lifestyle ended up because of her.
In a blink of an eye, Da Wa was nine years old. Country folks can start considering marriage at the age of fifteen. Many people got married at seventeen or eighteen. Now counting, how many years were there?
Time passed in a blink of an eye and if they don’t save any money for the children to use for the marriage now, there will be Er Wa and San Wa following behind after Da Wa married in the future.
Apparently, Qing Bai and his wife weren't very concerned.
In fact, some people in the village were already aiming for Da Wa.
Ignoring Lin Qing He, the unreliable mother, there was nothing to complain with just Zhou Qing Bai and his sons.
Especially Da Wa. He was very similar to his father, Zhou Qing Bai. Although he was only nine years old after the Chinese New Year, he was getting really tall really fast. He'll definitely be as big and tall as his father in the future.
How could the people who had daughters not keep in mind?
Everyone was clear which family within the ten miles and eight villages had a good daughter or a strong young man at this time.
From the looks of Da Wa, one knew he won't fare badly at all.
However, with Lin Qing He being the mother. This person didn't seem to be so easy to handle.
Lin Qing He was clueless about these things, but she had never worried about her sons' life-long events.
Even though the three boys were naughtier than the other, but in terms of appearance, they were the best among the children in the village. They all picked her and Zhou Qing Bai's best features.
What's more, how old were they now? To worry about things that happen ten years from now, wasn't this being too anxious?
This was the generation gap between her and the people at this time.
In Lin Qing He's opinion, it wasn't too late for a 30-year-old to marry. However, in this society's concept, a 30-year-old without a string of kids deserved strange looks.
For example, Third Brother Lin was now 28 years old. His wife was already pregnant with the fourth child.
And if she assumed correctly, he will definitely continue to have more in the future...
Thoughts were not on the same level. That's why Lin Qing He had never thought about integrating into the village after coming here for so many years. It was really impossible to get on the same topic. There was no need to forcibly integrate into their circle.
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ReplyDeleteThank u so much for all this time...I really appreciate it...hope u hve a nice day!:)
ReplyDeleteI wonder if the cause for the people back in the day to marry on their teens is because they started working at a young age?
ReplyDeleteMore likely related to short life expectancy. The life expectancy at birth for Da Wa born in 1964 is only 45 years. The ojisans and obasans who are gossiping have even shorter life expectancies. Shorter life cycle, marry earlier.
DeleteI would also think of china's population situation in the future if I were her... I'd try persuade some ppl, but ik it wouldn't be easy
ReplyDeleteI am really starting to dislike how the author needs to pressure the MC to have another daughter or son. First, it was the ML lowkey forcing it, and now we have the children chiming in left and right for more siblings. These people really do not care about their wife/mother's health at all. I am beginning to blacken and wish the MC die while giving birth, see if the ML/children keep bugging the MC to give birth now hah.
ReplyDeleteThat seems a bit harsh... I definitely agree that the MC should not be forced to give birth, but you need to consider the period and the ages for the kids. Personally I don't see a problem with the ML wishing for a 4th child, this fits with the time period and culture. He seemed forceful, but lets keep in mind that the MC never told him she didn't want more kids(what's more when she told him about the ligation, she said she didn't mind having a child, but it wasn't physically possible). His behaviour is fairly realistic.
DeleteAs for the kids, well they are kids... Most children want to have a younger sibling, especially the youngest. Also most people they know have a lot of kids(their uncles and probably their friends parents), why would they not want more siblings?
Lastly about the mother's health, although I have no intention to belittle the severity of pregnancy, you need to consider how normal it is to be pregnant here. The kids have seen their aunts be constantly pregnant for most of their lives and all of those pregnancies ended safely for both mom and child. Mind you, they also see their aunts working hard on the fileds without a problem, which isn't easy work. They have no reason to think that pregnancies are dangerous, since they see successful pregnancies all the time.
Sorry for the long post, I guess I felt a bit wordy today...(￣▼￣)
I'm weak in maths but calculating Qing He's age, isn't she 27 now? Then why is her younger brother 28 y.o.? (It was mentioned in one of the early chapters when she told Sister Mei that she gave birth to Da Wa at the age of 18 so 18+9=27)
ReplyDeleteProbably the age going according to age+1. Which was discussed in the comment in earlier chapter or later chapter. I lost track of chapter, as I'm translating far ahead than what is released.
DeleteIt could be because they have sibling order split by gender. Brother 1, brother 2, sister 1, sister 2. But it's actually brother 1, sister 2, sister 3, brother 4.
DeleteСан Ва напрашивается на порку. Цин Хэ должна ему объяснить, что количество детей - решение родителей. Пусть посмотрит на рано постаревших женщин из деревни и на свою мать. Он желает ей такой доли?
ReplyDeleteThe marriage thing made me think about the novels fl and ml I wonder if they’ll ever show up?
ReplyDeleteSameee. Are they in the same village? They haven't been mentioned once. So, they could possibly appear in the city or college arc. Once they start to move. Speaking of which, I didn't notice that 4 years have already passed it fel like 2 years or so only
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